A Meditation on Time and Identity
Last week on All Saints Day I awoke, to put it delicately, with some abdominal distress. Thinking about a couple friends who were told they had had heart attacks without knowing it, I decided to do the responsible thing and call my doctor. Instead of a quick office visit and hoping to hear, ‘not to worry,’ he told me, on the phone, it was necessary to go to the emergency room to check everything out.
What I expected to be a tedious, but endurable visit to the hospital turned into a 13-hour exercise in waiting. During this time I watched the clock roll around and around and realized I would miss our All Saints Day celebration. I was disappointed to realize that the faithful would be gathering without me. I knew there was going to be a dinner as part of the Eucharist in the crossing of the church and that my friend, The Reverend Andy Mullins would be leading a period of sharing and meditation as a response to the scripture lesson. Life was passing me by.
As a simple visit to the doctor's office, this visit was an eternity. Yet as a visit to the hospital it was a nanosecond, barely worth mentioning. Like our lives, time is always able to be viewed from two perspectives. When you wait for someone to pull out of a parking place, a minute can seem like an eternity. When you say goodbye to a loved one at a funeral, 40 years can seem like a minute. We have the capacity to see things from the immediate or from the eternal. We have the same capacity to see ourselves.
While I was in the waiting room, I was not the Rector of All Saints Church, star of stage and screen and legend in my own mind! I was another name waiting with the sick and the needy, waiting passively for someone to help me. When I was finally issued a bed in an open hall, I saw a busy medical staff walk by me time and again like I was invisible. It was not like a restaurant where attentive waiters always ask you, "Is everything is alright?" The staff was busy and there was little time for those small social gestures that remind you of your worth. My blue hospital gown helped insure my new identity, or lack thereof. I may not have been an outcast, but I was certainly not in power.
While I was virtually anonymous and invisible to the powerful people of the hospital the Other visited me. I was visited by the perspective of what it must be like to be a minority in our culture. I was visited by a perspective on how life must be like for the poor and the needy. I was able to become a keen observer of habit and character. I watched as I saw the social network of the hospital define the lives and activities of its employees. I was impressed by their professionalism and wondered about their souls. I had a lot of time to look and think, maybe the same way Jesus looked at the busy lives of the rich and poor of his time and derive insights. I thought of how Jesus saw the way people chose seats of honor at public gatherings and how he saw the persistent widow pound on the door of the misanthropic judge late at night. It's not that I had messianic delusions (they didn't give me anything that strong!), but I could see how stepping out of the ordinary allows one time to see things in a different light. Maybe one can actually begin to see from the perspective of the eternal rather than from the quotidian.
I also saw those parishioners who came to see me in a different light. They were not just parishioners. They were angels who came to tell me that in spite of my sudden lack of status and health, I was God's beloved, in whom both God and they were well pleased. This is a message I may know academically, but I felt it, experientially, as I lay on that stark hospital bed. I know better now how important even a phone call or a pat on the shoulder is in time of need. To the world, I was just another case, to my community of faith, I was family.
I am very grateful to the hospital staff. They really were responsible, professional and selfless in their attention to the needs of all of us in that room. I would guess that they saved a couple lives in the time I was there with my, less than serious, condition. I am thankful for the perspective that this "time out of time" granted me. I am thankful for the visits, phone calls and words of comfort from the saints of All Saints.
As we move into the fall season of Thanksgiving and Stewardship, I pray that we will all have a chance to step outside the ordinary. Not by a visit to the hospital, but by separating ourselves into that extraordinary space ofprayer, worship, meditation and reflection. I pray that we all come to see each other and ourselves differently, even as God sees us and loves us. I pray that we will come to know that our difficult times are there to teachus and form us and that all time is in God's hands. As the Psalmist writes, "Teach us, O Lord, to number our days." For in that numbering comes a knowing. I came in to heal my body; I left with my soul restored.
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